Manic depression, clinically known as bipolar disorder, is a condition that causes extreme shifts in a person's moods and energy, affecting her ability to function. According to Dr. Jeanne Segal, psychologist and managing editor of HelpGuide.com, the love and support from friends and family can make a tremendous difference in a manic depressive's treatment and recovery. While the process can take a toll on you, knowing how to cope with someone with bipolar disorder can make it easier.
How to Deal With a Manic Depressive
Step 1
Educate yourself. Bipolar disorder is a complex and complicated disorder. Before you can effectively cope with its effects and help your friend or loved one, you need to learn as much as you can about its symptoms and treatment options. A good book to read is "What Goes Up...Surviving the Manic Episode of a Loved One" by Judy Eron.
Step 2
Accept limitations. This includes both the manic depressive's and yours. First you need to understand that he cannot control his actions, feelings or behavior. If he is depressed, he is unable to pull himself out of it. When experiencing a manic episode, he cannot control his erratic behavior. Once you accept his limitations, you need to accept the fact that you can't make him seek help or take his medication. You can only offer support, but as Dr. Segal states, you cannot personally rescue him.
Step 3
Talk to him. When you communicate with a bipolar loved one, you may not always agree with or understand his feelings or thoughts. However, you can still express your concern in a compassionate way and let him know you care. As suggested by the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance, you can say things like, "You are important to me and your life is important to me," or "I understand your illness is what's causing your thoughts and feelings."
Step 4
Join a support group. Support groups exist, not just for the bipolar person, but also for his friends and family members. Joining one of these groups not only offers you an opportunity to meet others experiencing the same issues as you, you may learn new coping techniques as well.
Step 5
Recognize the signs. Even with treatment your loved one may still experience symptoms. Recognizing his symptoms allows for quick intervention and treatment, thus preventing a full-blown episode neither one of you needs to experience. Common symptoms of a manic episode include irritability, insomnia, restlessness, elevated mood and speaking quickly. Common symptoms of a depressive episode include fatigue, excessive sleeping, withdrawal from others, problems concentrating and change in appetite.
Things You'll Need
- Education
- Communication
- List of symptoms
- Support group
