Facts on Teen Sexuality
1. Is Sex a Bad Word?
It isn't that sex is a bad word or a forbidden act. It is one of the most natural instincts we have. However, it is something that teenagers need to understand and control. All the authority figures are telling them to say no, however, most of the movies, television shows and the media are telling them it is more than OK. By communicating the consequences of sexuality with your teen, it may make her think twice before engaging in sex.
2. Sex and the Teen Relationship
Adolescence is a time when sexuality is surfacing in boys and girls. It is almost impossible to protect your teen from getting her heart broken. Stress can arise when parents or friends don't like her boyfriend or relationships go bad. Confusion can be a problem when your teen is trying to sort through sexual urges, outside influences and sexual preference. Many times, teens will experiment with partners of the same sex, but it doesn't always mean they are gay or bisexual. However, this is the time when many teens figure out their sexual orientation and will seek encouragement, understanding and love from their parents.
3. The Ins and Outs of Teen Sexuality
Although the physical side of sex is obvious, the emotional side may not be. Explain to your teenager that sex doesn't come without emotions and feelings. It is important for your teenager to realize the reasons she may want to have sex. Does she really want it, or is she feeling the pressure from her friends. She could be doing it because she believes that a boy will like her more if she allows him to have sex with her. Explain to her that there are other ways to be intimate with her boyfriend than sexual contact, and she should never have sex until she knows it is the right time.
4. Have Some Condom Sense
Although, we may try to deter our teenagers from having sex, it may happen anyway. If it does, make sure your teen understands the aspects of protecting herself during vaginal, anal and oral sex. Not only is there a possibility of pregnancy, but sexually transmitted diseases and sexually transmitted infections are also a concern. Therefore, oral contraceptives will not protect your teen from acquiring an infection or disease. The best protection from pregnancy, STIs or STDs is abstinence. However, if sex is imminent, encourage your son or daughter to use a condom.
5. Baby, What a Big Surprise
The teen pregnancy rate is at an all time high. Often times, teen girls are afraid to tell their parents they believe they're pregnant. This may delay her medical care and potentially harm her and the baby. Be aware of your daughter's behavior, and if you suspect she may be pregnant, don't ignore the situation. Be careful how you confront her by staying calm, loving and non-threatening. Boys aren't exempt from taking responsibility for their children, even if they are under 18. A simple paternity test will determine who the baby's father is, and he will be responsible to pay at least $50 per month until he's 18, according to the court system. At that point, it will be re-evaluated, and he will be ordered to pay more.






Member Comments
by che1 on November 11, 2008 at 1:00 PM
is it illegal for a 14 yr. old and a 17 yr. old to have consentual sex with each other,even if the parents say it's okay?
by biiancaaa on November 16, 2008 at 5:17 AM
is it illegal for a 16 yr old girl having sex with a 19 yr old boy???
by Sanssouci on November 23, 2008 at 10:34 AM
About age and the law:
Statutory rape is when someone who is legally an adult has sex with someone who is legally a child. Statutory rape and age of consent laws vary quite a bit depending on where you live. Some states in the US have a law that says it's legal as long as the difference in your ages is four years or less, but others don't have that law.
But keep this in mind. Statutory rape laws were put into place to keep kids safe from predators. If you and your partner are only a few years apart in age, it's probably not a predator situation. And the police don't go knocking on doors looking for teen couples. Usually when statutory rape charges are brought up, it's because the parents of the younger person found out and called the police.
So to sum up, without knowing where you live, we can't tell you the laws on statutory rape where you live. But you both brought up a three year age difference, which is generally well accepted in American society and legal in many states anyway. And even if it's not technically legal, there's a good chance you and your partner will be just fine, especially if your parents support the relationship.