Manic depression, also referred to as bipolar disorder, is a condition that causes extreme shifts in a person's moods and energy. It is not only debilitating for him, but an emotional strain for those who love and care about him. Although it may take its toll, providing your love and support can make a difference in his treatment and recovery, according to Dr. Jeanne Segal, psychologist and managing editor of HelpGuide.com. While the process may not be easy, knowing how to cope with the manic-depressive in your life can make life better for both of you.
Step 1
Educate yourself. Bipolar disorder is an extremely complex and complicated disorder. Many times, your loved one doesn't understand what is happening, so it is vital that you do. To cope with its effects and help your loved one, you need to learn as much as possible about its symptoms and treatment options. "What Goes Up...Surviving the Manic Episode of a Loved One," by Judy Eron, is an excellent book to read when searching for answers and looking for insight.
Step 2
Accept limitations. This includes both the manic depressive's and your own. His most debilitating limitations are the inability to control his thoughts, feelings and actions; this includes his erratic behavior during manic episodes and deep depression during depressive episodes. Knowing this helps you come to terms with the fact that you can't make him seek help or take his medication. You can offer him support, but, as Dr. Segal states, you cannot rescue him.
Step 3
Talk to him. Communicating with a manic-depressive can be difficult; you are not always going to understand how he feels or agree with what he says. You can, however, show compassion. The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance suggests saying things like, "Your life is important to me," or "I understand your illness is responsible for your thoughts and feelings."
Step 4
Recognize the signs. Even with treatment, your loved one may still experience symptoms. Recognizing them allows you to intervene quickly by calling his doctor or therapist, thus preventing a full-blown episode. Common symptoms of a manic episode include irritability, insomnia, restlessness, elevated mood and speaking quickly. Common symptoms of a depressive episode include fatigue, excessive sleeping, withdrawal from others, problems concentrating and change in appetite.
Step 5
Join a support group. Joining a support group for family members and friends of those suffering from manic-depression offers you both an opportunity to meet others experiencing the same emotional issues as yourself, but allows you to learn new coping techniques as well.
Things You'll Need
- Books on manic-depression
- Acceptance
- Open communication
- Ability to recognize symptoms
- Support group
