Developing, maintaining and increasing sex drive is no easy task. For women, general anatomy, biological processes and age can affect a woman's libido. Many people attribute a low libido as a problem specific to more mature women; however, young women can suffer from decreased sex drive as well. If you're not feeling particularly motivated by sex or have notice a diminished desire for it, try some natural methods for increasing your sex drive.
Step 1
Get active. Generally, younger women's bodies respond quickly to physical activity. Exercising and increasing physical activity can jump-start metabolism and re-balance hormone levels. Aim to exercise for 20-30 minutes per day on most days to maintain a moderate activity level. Sex is a physical act driven by mental energy; maintaining a lifestyle with moderate physical activity will provide you with more mental energy and allow you to relax and even look forward to sex.
Step 2
Examine your eating habits. With a busy schedule, it can be easy to eat out often, limiting opportunities for a balanced diet. Whenever possible, eat fruits and vegetables that are rich in vitamins and minerals (e.g., green vegetables, such as kale or spinach, and foods rich in antioxidants, such as blueberries and carrots). Think of the foods you eat as fuel. For more examples, see the References section below.
Step 3
Take vitamins (if you aren't taking any currently) or increase your intake of vitamins. It is important to set a solid foundation for your health as a young woman. As you age, the likelihood of vitamin deficiencies will increase. Vitamins provide a little extra help with the body's chemical reactions. In addition to your daily multivitamin, take additional supplements. Vitamin E, vitamin B, vitamin C and zinc have all been proven to aid libido.
Step 4
De-stress. Stress can be a mental block. It is difficult to feel sensual when you're worrying about other things. Make relaxation a regular part of your day. Don't think about anything but relaxing and spending some quality time with your partner. Don't force yourself into having sex if you are significantly bothered by something; it will be difficult to focus on connecting with your partner.
Step 5
Think about the times when you really enjoyed sex with your partner in order to find a "formula" for what allows you to feel sexual. What were the circumstances? Were you at home? What day was it (i.e., weekday versus weekend)? What time of day was it? How did you feel mentally and physically?
Step 6
Connect or reconnect with your sensuality. Many women approach sex as an "act" or activity, similar to the other tasks that must be completed each day. Leave your to-do list and Blackberry at the door and spend some time reconnecting with yourself. Learn what makes you feel sensual and do what relaxes you and prepares you for intimacy. Start to rely on yourself, instead of your partner, to get in the mood.
