5 Things You Need to Know About Talking To Teens About Sex

1. Think Hard Before You Talk

Think about your own values, morals and beliefs before you talk to your teen about sex. It is important for you to think about your own sexual curiosity when you were a teen. Your teen will have questions about the things that you did when you were their age. He may also question the reasons for your values, morals and beliefs. Anticipate these questions so you can decide how to answer them in an age appropriate way.

2. Just the Facts

Teens are able to draw their own conclusions when they are presented hard facts. It is important to be open and honest with your teen about every aspect of teen sexuality. Do your research before you sit down with them. Get printed literature from a clinic or doctor's office. Make sure you talk to your teen about emotions, teen pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Tell your teen how you feel about each of these aspects. It is also important to let them know that some of the things shown on television and in other entertainment media are wrong. Teens generally place a lot of faith and trust in their entertainment idols.

3. The Right Time, the Right Place and the Right Attitude

Talking to your teen about sex should happen when you are both calm and alone. Most of the time, having the "sex talk" is uncomfortable for both of you. You need to make your teen feel as comfortable as possible. You should be relaxed, have open body language and let your teen know that sex is natural. It is best to have a relaxed conversation about sex with your teen. Lecturing your teen will usually make him stop listening.

4. Read Between the Lines

When you talk to your teen about sex, it is important that you actively listen to your teen. She will ask questions that may have hidden meanings. She may say things that could let you know about certain aspects of teen sexuality that you need to talk about more. Teens in general aren't very good at expressing deep feelings or talking about subjects that make them uncomfortable. As a parent, you have to read between the lines of what your teen is saying and how she is acting.

5. A Continuous Conversation

Talking to your teen about sex isn't a one-time event. You have to let your teen know you are always available to answer questions about sex. If your teen is shy or uneasy talking to you about sex, you may want to talk to an adult your teen is comfortable with to find out if they can talk to them about sex. Just make sure the person you talk to has the same beliefs as you.