1. Tough Goodbyes
Separation anxiety is a regular part of development. Almost every child at some time or another will be upset when being left by a parent. While at first it can be cute and touching to know you are so loved and needed, it can soon grow old and cause distress every time you need some time away. It can even disrupt your schedule when returning to work.
2. Different For Every Child
Each baby goes through his own version of separation anxiety. For many infants, it occurs when the baby is several months old. For some though, it can occur later in the toddler years. Separation might cause tears and sleeplessness in a young baby, while it may mean temper tantrums and violent lash outs in older children. While most separation anxiety is normal, it may be an emotional response to stress in a child's life.
3. Timing May Be Everything
Decrease the stress brought on by separation anxiety by timing the separation right. Avoid making major changes, such as going back to work and taking baby to daycare, during the worse period for separation anxiety between eight months and one year. Don't leave your baby when major life changes are happening, such as a move to a new house or an addition to the family. Also don't leave the baby when he's tired, hungry or sick.
4. Nighttime Tantrums
Sometimes your baby or toddler will only express separation anxiety at night when you are trying to put her in bed. It is time to be tough. Let your baby cry for a few minutes, but then go to her. Stay long enough to soothe her, but put her back down before she's completely asleep. Don't make the visit at all fun or exciting with tickling, funny faces or games. Stick to your guns but build confidence in your baby by reassuring her you are there.
5. How to Tough Through It
Practice leaving your baby to relieve separation anxiety. First leave your baby with familiar faces such as aunts, uncles or grandparents. If introducing a new babysitter or caregiver, let them get to know each other while you are still home. Stay light hearted and happy yourself, and do not let your baby see you cry. Your child will take the cue. Avoid making repeated trips in and out, which only teases your child. Always say good-bye and do not sneak out. This creates distrust in your child.
