1. Why They Happen
If you have kids you have probably witnessed a few temper tantrums. Young children have temper tantrums for a variety of reasons. They don't have the verbal skills to express what they are feeling. Little kids also become easily frustrated and don't have the skills to cope with it in a healthy way so the kicking, screaming and crying may start.
2. Is it Normal?
Your child had a major meltdown and you wonder is this normal? It may not be pretty but rest assured it is completely normal. About 80 percent of children under the age of 4 have had at least one tantrum. The amount and frequency of temper tantrums depends on your child's natural temperament although almost all young children have at least a few temper tantrums. The good news is as your child gets older and develops self control and better language skills tantrums should reduce and eventually stop altogether.
3. Prevent It Before it Starts
The best way to deal with a temper tantrum is to prevent it from happening. Most young children are more prone to tantrums when they are bored, tried or hungry. Be aware of nap times and have snacks on hand when you are in a situation where a tantrum may occur such as running errands. Give your child a warning when going from one activity to the next to make the transition easier. Allow your child to make small decisions for herself such as choosing between two activities. This may help a child feel less frustrated.
4. Defuse a Tantrum
If your child is having a tantrum to get your attention its best to ignore the negative behavior. If your child is in danger of hurting himself move him to a safe spot and walk away. When your child has calmed down explain why that type of behavior is unacceptable. Talk about ways your child can handle her feelings better. For very young children under the age of two consider distracting your child by making her laugh or changing activities. Avoid giving in to what your child wants during his tantrum.
5. This Too Shall Pass
Your child is having the tantrum but you may need help coping yourself. It may be embarrassing or frustrating to have your child have a full blown temper tantrum especially in public. However do your best to stay calm. If you're at home give yourself a time out to regroup. As long as your child is safe walk away for a minute and count to ten. Keep in mind most children outgrow tantrums.
