1. A
Recognizing anger and dealing with it in an appropriate and productive way is a skill that has to be cultivated for many individuals. All too often people express anger in unhealthy and destructive ways that don't allow for the emotion to be fully released. Keeping anger inside or lashing out irrationally are all detrimental to your health and relationships, but the recognition and productive expression of anger is a good thing.
2. E
Often anger problems are a result of faulty beliefs about what it means about you as a person to be angry. People either hold a belief that it is unacceptable and undesirable to express anger or that when they are angry they must express it to someone in order to feel free of the emotion. Figuring out your feelings about the emotion of anger is a key step in getting control of, or accessing your angry reactions.
3. K
Anger is a problem when it cannot be expressed in a healthy manner. Healthy is different for different people but it is commonly believed that for a behavior to be healthy it does not harm others unnecessarily and causes no harm to oneself. In this respect, anger becomes a problem when it is either not expressed or when it is expressed in a harmful manner against others. Interference with your relationships and a constant report of you having an "anger problem" are signs that probably you should deal with your issues with your angry feelings.
4. T
Anger management is something most therapists and counselors can work on with individuals, since it is a common emotion that many people have trouble navigating. Find a therapist you can trust who will help you access your angry feelings and express them in a healthy manner and at appropriate times. Cognitive Behavioral therapy is great for helping to re-frame behaviors and beliefs surrounding anger into a more productive release of this powerful emotion.
5. D
While therapist can be beneficial and knowledgeable in facilitating anger management, you don't have to pay hundreds of dollars to understand and change your behavior. Look for books at your local bookstore on anger management. Countless books on the market are designed to help individuals work through their anger problems and live happy lives. Relaxation techniques, a healthy diet and a regular exercise routine also go a long way to help you to deal with tension and release excess energy which contributes to anger problems.
