1. Accepting Dementia
Acceptance is very important when your relative or loved one has dementia. Accepting dementia means being realistic in what you can and cannot do to help him. Work with his doctor to know what medical options are available for their stage of dementia. Make sure that all legal documents are in place, guardianship is established and that you know and understand the wishes of your relative while he's still able to make such decisions.
2. Have Patience Dealing With Dementia
Develop patience dealing with dementia as she goes through the progression of the disease. When she's frustrated because she can't find things or can't remember who you are, just bring the situation down. Hold her hand and tell her it will be okay. Tell her your name when you call or arrive. She might not remember your name that particular day. Set up routines that will help both of you. Do the same things at the same time every day, verbally say the day of the week, use large calendars that change automatically and label pictures of family or loved ones, so she can read these when you're not with her.
3. Care For the Caregiver
Dementia is a disease that can be equally hard on the caregiver and the patient. It's important that the caregiver of a dementia patient to have support. Caring for a relative with dementia can be exhausting and isolating. Set up schedules for backup and assistance from other family or friends. Hire medical sitters if possible to allow you to stay in touch with your life and friends. Join a support group of like caregivers as a place to release your emotions and gain support in your caregiver situation.
4. When the Time Comes
There will come a time when you must ask for help caring for your relative. Talk to the doctor to make sure he is taking the appropriate medications for his stage of dementia. Be ready to move to a different phase in care when he is no longer able to care for himself, he wanders during the night or becomes violent. It's very possible that you will need professional help during the night or have to consider moving him to a care facility for his own safety and wellbeing.
5. Take the Journey Together
Dementia is a journey in the life of your relative or loved one. Helping her will help you as a caregiver of dementia. Spend your time together reflecting on the past that she knew and loved. Keep precious things close to her such as a Bible, family photos, a special pillow or even a piece of clothing. This is a special time for both of you. Sit down together, hold her hand, hug her and show her that she's loved and cared about.
