First-time parents to a newborn have a lot to handle. They are going from a basically selfish lifestyle, to one where someone other than themselves is constantly at the center. It's no wonder that some parents find themselves burned out and tired, thinking that they aren't doing a good job. The truth is that as long as your baby is safe, happy and healthy, you are being the best parent you know how to be. Being a successful parent to a baby is tiring, but rewarding.
Step 1
Brush up on the care and handling of newborns. You may have taken a newborn care class as part of your preparation, but if not, it's a good time to learn to hold a baby properly by supporting her head and neck. Make sure you have a regulation rear-facing car seat, and never shake or rough house with your baby. These are some basic components of being a successful parent. Borrow helpful basic books from the library if you feel that you need more information about newborn safety.
Step 2
Create bonding time with your baby so that you can become accustomed to each other. Kidshealth.org gives some bonding ideas, such as rocking your baby in a chair, wearing your baby in a sling or just spending time focused on the baby alone. Bonding is an important part of being a successful parent, as it helps you to feel closer to the baby.
Step 3
Find a way to get as much sleep as possible. Many experienced mothers will tell you to sleep when the baby does, which is easier said than done when there is housework to be done and thank-you notes to be written. Ask for help from friends and family for meals and cleaning so that you can rest. When you are well-rested, you'll have more patience with a crying or fussy baby.
Step 4
Redefine your own expectations and routines. While you may have been staunchly against formula feeding before your child is born, you may find that it is the best choice for you and your family. Gregory Ramey, PhD, child psychologist at the Children's Medical Center of Dayton, braces parents for changes in their routines and life. Take these changes in stride by not placing requirements upon yourself that are impossible to achieve.
Step 5
Take time for yourself. Instead of being with your baby 24 hours per day, leave the baby with your spouse or babysitter and slip out to go window shopping, to the gym or for a bite to eat. A parent who takes time for herself is more calm and less frazzled. She won't feel as if she is sacrificing her entire life for the baby. Carving out time for yourself each day will help you be a more successful parent.
