As the parent of a child with behavioral difficulties, you may find your child is challenged by involvement in mainstream group activities. Perhaps you have been advised by a doctor or counselor to involve your child in physical activity that will help channel his energy in a positive way, but are having trouble finding a group that works for him. Happily, there are many organizations nationwide that are dedicated to children's physical and mental health that may offer options that work for you.
The Facts
Children with behavioral problems are often frustrated by activities that other children may take to easily. Research shows that often the behavioral issues stem from simply having a different method of learning. T.J. Zirpoli, author of a teacher's manual titled "Behavior Management," finds that there is no benefit in treating every child the same in a group situation. Placing your child in a program that will recognize and support her needs will result in a better experience for all involved.
Martial Arts
Elementary school-aged children can be enrolled in a structured exercise program that focuses on self-discipline and teamwork while building self-esteem. Martial Arts programs for kids generally fit in this category. Premier Martial Arts, a national group of schools, specifies that its youth programs focus on "personal development through a physical discipline." Talk with the instructor of your local school to get a sense of how they handle children with behavioral problems and ask to watch a few classes.
Running
Girls on the Run is a national program for girls in 3rd through 8th grade that focuses on tenets such as self-worth and expression in addition to obstacles pertaining primarily to pre-teen girls. While not specifically touted as a program for children with behavioral difficulties, this program promotes positive images of self, team and community and teaches girls to value what makes them different while examining the causes and effects of their behavior.
Considerations
It may be difficult to involve your behavior challenged child in team sports such as soccer or baseball. A study found in the Journal of Attention Disorders finds that in particular boys with ADHD are more likely to respond unfavorably to a team sport by acting out in aggression or being more emotional after a win or loss. It may be helpful to discuss possible game scenarios with your child ahead of time. If you, your child and his coach are all following a plan to cope with these scenarios, a more positive experience can emerge.
