When a loved one is in a rehab center because of alcoholism, it can sometimes be confusing as to what to write to her in a letter. You want to keep in touch, but you may be wary of writing anything that will cause her to feel the pain of withdrawal more acutely. Letter-writing is actually an effective intervention tactic, according to the Canyon Rehab Facility in Malibu, Calif., because it allows you to more fully express your love and support of the alcoholic. Write a supportive letter expressing your love and encouraging her to stay clean.
Step 1
Call the treatment facility and talk to a program director about the rules for communication. He may be able to explain how the alcoholic is doing, and things you may or may not want to mention in the letter. Some rehab facilities don't allow communication with others outside of the facility, so ask what their policies are.
Step 2
Begin the letter in a cheerful and happy way. Your loved one in the facility may need a positive attitude. Detail some of the news of things that have been happening while she has been gone, but stipulate that soon she will be there to join you.
Step 3
Refrain from writing about old friends and social situations. Talking about going to a club or bar is not only insensitive, but it may also cause a relapse. Keep the letter low key and think carefully before you put pen to paper.
Step 4
Include messages from other friends and family members who send their love as well. Recovering from alcoholism is often a lonely process, and knowing that all of her friends and family members are pulling for her and pledge their support could be the last push that she needs to become clean and stay that way.
Step 5
Offer your support and plans for support when she is released. For instance, you might note that your home will be alcohol-free, so as not to tempt her. You may mention that you'd stopped hanging out with certain people who could be a bad influence, or that you plan to join a gym with her to keep her mind off of alcohol. Knowing that you are her partner in sobriety can put her mind at ease and help her to feel empowered and safe.
