The push to breastfeed leaves many new moms feeling pressure to nurse. Even considering formula can cause feelings of guilt, especially when combined with the hormones of pregnancy and childbirth. While breastfeeding does benefit both mom and baby, infant formula meets a baby's nutritional needs and allows more flexibility on who handles the feedings. A mother who feels bad about choosing formula may miss out on powerful bonding time and memory-making with her new baby.
Step 1
Discuss your decision to bottle feed your baby with your partner or other support people you have in your life. Ask them to support you emotionally without mentioning breastfeeding or adding any guilt.
Step 2
Clarify your reasons for not breastfeeding to remind yourself of the purpose of your choice. Consider the reduced stress you will feel by not trying to breastfeed when it is painful or difficult to do.
Step 3
Remind yourself that the formula provides your baby with the nutrition she needs. Discuss the nutrients with your baby's health care provider if you need reassurance that the formula is a safe option for your baby.
Step 4
Hold your baby close to your body when you provide the bottle. Look into your baby's eyes and focus on the bonding you are doing during feeding sessions. Bottle feeding can provide just as much bonding as breastfeeding when you are engaged.
Step 5
Observe your baby's health state and weight gain with the bottle feeding. His healthy state proves that you are providing the necessary nutrition for your infant.
Step 6
Join a support group for new mothers that welcomes moms who formula feed. Talking with other mothers who bottle feed may help you realize you aren't the only one who experiences those feelings. You may also learn coping techniques to deal with the negative feelings.
Step 7
Discuss your negative feelings about formula feeding with a professional if it doesn't subside. Call your health care provider for an appointment or a referral to a counselor who can help you manage the feelings.
