The definition of discipline, according to Merriam-Webster, is training to mold or correct moral character or behavior of someone. The words discipline and punishment are often used interchangeably, but they don't mean the same thing. Children can be disciplined without being punished by spanking or verbal reprimands. According to an article at ChildrensHospital.org, parents need to begin disciplining their children with positive reinforcement as soon as they are mobile. This should be done in a loving manner, without anger or physical punishment.
Ignoring and Distracting
Many times children misbehave to get attention. Sometimes ignoring the bad behavior and offering positive reinforcements for good behavior will work if the action isn't hurting anyone else. If the child sees that she won't get the attention she wants for doing something bad, she may stop. Distracting the child may also work. As soon as the bad behavior begins, refocusing his attention to something more positive may halt his naughtiness in mid-action. It also lets him know what you expect.
Communication About Expectations
Once the child is old enough, communicate with her about what you expect in terms of behavior. Set clear guidelines, limits and boundaries and state the consequences for not following the rules. If she understands the reasons behind the rules, she is more likely to comply. For example, if you say not to touch the stove, let your child know that if she disobeys, she may get hurt if a burner is on. Constant communication can eliminate many of the frustrations between parents and their children.
Time Out and the Naughty Corner
Once children cross the line and disobey a clearly stated rule, giving them a time out or placing them in a naughty corner or on a naughty chair is the preferred method of disciplining them. A time out and away from the situation gives him an opportunity to think about his behavior and work out in his mind the fact that his actions are not acceptable.
The naughty corner or chair also removes him from the situation and gives him a chance to regroup. Whenever discipline is administered, it should always match the infraction. If a child tosses his toys around in a temper tantrum in the morning, not allowing him to have dessert after dinner hours later will not be as effective as having him stop what he is doing and put away his toys immediately after the tantrum is over.
