Whining, fighting, arguing and ignoring directions are just a few of the things kids do that annoy their parents. While parenting offers many rewarding moments, the annoying moments tend to send parents over the edge with frustration and even anger. Feeling annoyed with your children at times is normal. Learning how to control those feelings of annoyance enables you to better handle the situation without losing your temper and saying or doing something you will later regret.
Step 1
Set household rules and routines for specific situations, especially those that annoy you. For example, ask the kids to pick up their belongings from common areas of the home every night. Expressing your expectations in the form of rules and routines helps kids reduce the frustrating behaviors that get on your nerves.
Step 2
Use logical consequences when your child misbehaves. If he refuses to pick up his toys, pack them away for a week as a punishment. The consequences help stop the behavior that is getting on your nerves while teaching your child how you expect him to behave.
Step 3
Offer the kids plenty of activities to keep them occupied. A child who is actively involved in a specific task is less likely to exhibit behaviors that get on your nerves.
Step 4
Practice relaxation and calming techniques, such as deep breathing and visualization, as soon as you feel your body start to tense.
Step 5
Speak directly to your child regarding the behavior that is starting to get on your nerves. Stay firm without getting angry as you explain to your child why her behavior is inappropriate or frustrating. Explain to her how you need her to change her behavior.
Step 6
Breathe deeply and count to 20 before responding to a child who is getting on your nerves. Use this time to calm yourself so you don't yell or say things out of anger to your child.
Step 7
Walk away from your child to give yourself a short time out if you find yourself getting annoyed or angry. Stay close enough to keep an eye on him while giving yourself the space and time to calm down.
Tips and Warnings
- Take regular time for yourself to have a break and relaxation. These daily or weekly breaks often help you stay calm and better handle the kids because you are less stressed overall.
