Kids often have as many time management problems as adults. Grownups juggle jobs, personal activities and family responsibilities, while youngsters balance schoolwork, scheduled activities, social time and chores. Your child may feel that she has too much to do for the limited time she has, but you can help. Three-quarters of kids surveyed by the Nemours Foundation for KidsHealth.org said they wanted their parents' assistance when they were trying to handle stressful situations.
Setting Priorities
Teach your child to set priorities, beginning with what he has to do and then ranking optional activities in order of importance, PBSKids.org advises. For example, kids must do their homework and household chores, and many youngsters participate in activities like sports. Start with those commitments. Then make a list of optional activities, and help your child rank them in terms of desirability. Help him create a schedule based on the list.
Venting Feelings
Encourage your child to talk to you when she is feeling overwhelmed. You may not pick up on the signs of stress, but your child will share and ask for help if she feels comfortable doing so. KidsHealth.org advises against being judgmental. For example, don't say, "Of course you have no time for your friends. You signed up for too many activities." Instead, acknowledge your child's feelings, and concentrate on helping her come up with a solution.
Empowerment
Empower your child to come up with solutions on his own, rather than simply telling him how to manage his time. You may think you know the right answers, but your child may feel resistant if you tell him what to do. Have a conversation that subtly steers him in the right direction. For example, instead of saying, "Drop that school club that conflicts with soccer and and join something else," ask him, "Are there other good clubs that meet on different nights?" Rather than demand that he drop a certain activity, ask, "Do you think the stress is worth continuing your karate lessons?"
Stress Management
You cannot completely protect your child from stress, either from a hectic schedule or from other life events. Teach her stress management strategies like writing in a journal, talking to trusted friends, listening to music, deep breathing and even meditating. Kids can learn simple strategies from a young age. For example, teach your child to pause and spend a minute taking deep breaths when her stress level rises or to lie down in her room and visualize a safe, happy place when she feels overwhelmed.
