Preschoolers generally learn the connection between action and consequence between the ages of 3 and 5. Helping your preschooler understand parental expectations before being disciplined is key to his success in implementing positive behaviors. Explain to your preschooler the appropriateness of certain behaviors and their consequences the first time they happen and be prepared to follow through next time. There are many healthy ways to discipline your child, but all require parental consistency and patience.
Ignore
Preschoolers are naturally imbalanced in emotions and reasoning due to a lack of development in the area of the brain reserved for judgment and decision making. There is no reasoning with a preschooler who is in the midst of a temper tantrum. Although uncomfortable on the ears, ignoring your preschooler's tantrum gives him the space he needs to work out his feelings. Move any objects out of the way that could cause him harm and let him roar.
Diversion
It is common for preschoolers to rebel against parental control by trying to engage parents in a yelling match or battle of wills. You can rise to this occasion in a positive way by distracting your child with sensory stimulation. Preschoolers have short attention spans and can step out of a funk just as quickly as they fall in. Engaging your preschooler with a book, snack or toy that they haven't seen in a while are excellent diversions.
Positive Reinforcement
Positive parental language is important in preschool years as children learn to balance independence with added rules and boundaries. Positive reinforcement offers parents a way to correct their preschooler's behavior without compromising his self-esteem or confidence. You can practice positive reinforcement by explaining why an action was bad instead of labeling your preschooler as "bad" or "naughty." This promotes the growth of positive self-esteem and a sense of confidence in your child while maintaining parental boundaries.
Assess Your Child's Needs
The physical needs of younger children are heightened by constant growth and development. In fact, clinical psychologist Ray Levy says that being tired and hungry are the two main causes of child tantrums. When children are tired or hungry it takes very little to push them over the emotional edge. You can determine whether your preschooler's tantrums are food or sleep related by charting when they occur and adjusting food and sleep schedules as necessary.
