You might see your preschool child exhibit a range of emotions daily, but she doesn't always handle the feelings appropriately. Even if you preschooler notices a change in how she feels, preschoolers struggle to express what's going on inside themselves. The emotions can manifest themselves as temper tantrums, crying or hitting. Helping your young child identify and handle her feelings reduces the improper behaviors she exhibits. Work with her regularly to help her deal with her feelings.
Step 1
Talk about emotions with your preschooler when he's not upset. Practice acting out the different emotions and talk about different situations that might cause each emotion.
Step 2
Learn to decipher your preschooler's emotions to help her work through them. Anger sometimes results in aggressiveness while sadness might cause a subdued nature and possibly withdrawal. Fear sometimes causes your child to resist or throw a temper tantrum if she doesn't want to do something she's afraid of. Knowing how your child feels helps you talk her through the emotions.
Step 3
Label a particular emotion when your preschooler shows that he is feeling it. For example, if he acts angry, tell him you understand that he is angry and it is a normal emotion. Stop any dangerous behaviors associated with the emotions, such as hitting or pushing.
Step 4
Talk to your child to determine the cause of the emotion. Validate her feelings in reaction to the event. If her sister knocked over her block tower, let her know that anger is a normal reaction to the situation.
Step 5
Help him figure out ways to handle the negative emotions the next time. Give him suggestions for healthy outlets for the emotions, such as getting away to a quiet spot or coloring a picture to describe the situation.
Step 6
Express your own emotions in a healthful manner soon you can be a positive model for your child. Avoid angry outbursts, name calling, blaming or other negative behaviors. Talk to your child about the emotions you feel and how you are dealing with them.
Tips and Warnings
- While emotions such as anger, sadness and fear often get the most attention, take time to point out emotions such as happiness and excitement when your preschooler experiences them.
