Negative Effects Of Too Many Rules On Children

While children need limits, too many rules may have negative consequences, both now and in the future. Parenting style, including rule-setting and enforcement, influences children's temperament, self-esteem, behavior and success in school. Children may also struggle with too many rules or an overly strict environment in a classroom or child-care setting.

Parenting Style

Parenting styles are subdivided into four distinct types. Parenting types are defined by how demanding and responsive parents are. Permissive or indulgent parents are responsive, but demand little of their children. Uninvolved parents are neither responsive nor demanding. Authoritative parents are assertive, but not restrictive, providing both limits and room for growth. Strict guidelines for behavior and stringent expectations regarding rules are associated with authoritarian parents. Authoritarian parents should be aware of the potential negative consequences associated with this parenting style.

Young Children

Young children are easily overwhelmed by too many rules and may have difficulty remembering, understanding or following complex rules. A strict, controlled environment reduces opportunities for creativity, learning and growth. With few choices, children cannot learn decision-making skills. Young children may become fearful or aggressive in a punitive home, reports Barbara Coloroso, author of "Just Because It's Not Wrong, Doesn't Mean It's Right."

The School-Age Years

While older children can understand and follow more rules than younger children, they need the freedom to make mistakes and learn from their mistakes. In a home with too many rules, children may act to avoid punishment or gain reward, rather than listening to their own conscience and making good choices. The effects of a strict and authoritarian parenting style during these years include lower self-esteem and poor social skills.

Teens

Teens raised with too many rules do function better than those raised with none at all, but not as well as children raise in homes that balance authority with responsiveness. Teens in strict homes are less likely to engage in problem behaviors and do moderately well in school. They have higher rates of anxiety and depression than other teens and are more likely to give in to peer pressure, according to Diana Baumrind, professor of child development at the University of California at Berkeley.