1. Parents Are Supposed to Be Perfect
While there is nothing wrong with striving to be the best parent you possibly can be, don't expect yourself to be perfect. Set yourself reasonable and attainable goals in your parenting role. You are, from time to time, going to make mistakes; no parent knows what to do in every single situation, so don't give yourself a hard time when things don't work out quite as you expected them to.
2. The More Things You Give Your Children, the Better
Spoiling your child with material things such as toys, money or clothes will make them take you for granted and also not appreciate the value of their belongings. Don't use toys or special favors to bribe your children. Treats should be used as rewards for good behavior or proud achievements this will help your child learn to set goals and to be motivated to attain them. Don't be afraid of saying no sometimes when your children ask for something otherwise they will become overly demanding and unable to deal with situations in which their desires cannot be immediately fulfilled.
3. The Family Is a Democracy
The family should not be a democracy. Children have to learn to understand that as a parent you have the final decision in any matter. It is important that your children have reasonable and stable boundaries in their relationship with you; this will help then to develop a sense of fairness and to respect and understand your role in their lives.
4. Children Should Come First
Many parents today spoil their children by giving them more importance in their lives than even their spouse or themselves. This can ultimately be very damaging to a child's development because it will lead them to believe that they can always have their own way even at the expense of others needs or wishes. On the other hand don't plunge to the opposite extreme and never fulfill your child's wishes, it is important above all to maintain a healthy balance.
5. You Know Your Child Better Than Anyone
While it is probably true that you know your child's favorite toy, preferred flavor of ice cream and what she likes most to watch on television, don't be sucked into the misapprehension that you know everything about your children. As well as you know them, your opinion is not objective. Teachers, on the other hand, often get a much wider perspective on your children, how they fit into the spectrum of daily life and how they interact with other people. So don't be afraid to listen when they have constructive comments about your children.
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