Although childhood temper tantrums are often associated with the "terrible twos," they can occur at virtually any age. To control temper tantrums, parents should know their children's triggers and aim to avoid these whenever possible. When temper tantrums can't be avoided, it's important to ensure the child is in a safe environment where she cannot harm herself.
Step 1
Take along easy snacks and sippy cups when you leave the house. Children often have tantrums because they are hungry and don't have easy access to the things they need.
Step 2
Run errands when your child is well-rested and has recently eaten. Because very young children do not have good communication skills, they frequently respond to exhaustion and frustration by throwing tantrums.
Step 3
Keep track of your child's triggers. Some children, for example, throw tantrums when they are lonely or want attention. Others may throw tantrums when they feel like they have no control over a situation. Avoid setting off your child's particular triggers. Although this may seem like a way to let your child dictate your schedule, it really just gives your child an opportunity to succeed. Very young children do not have good emotional control and can't be expected to react appropriately to frustrating conditions.
Step 4
Make temper tantrums as unrewarding as possible. Many parents become embarrassed when their child throws a tantrum in public and will give the child anything he wants to stop the tantrum. While this might work on a short-term basis, it ultimately teaches the child that tantrums are an effective strategy. Instead, tell your child, "We can talk about this when you are able to be calm." Then ignore the tantrum. If you are home, ensure that your child is in his room or crib. If you are out in public, place him in a shopping cart, baby sling or other safe location. The goal is to keep him safe while avoiding giving him attention for the tantrum.
Step 5
Talk to your child about her tantrums when she's calm. Children over two typically have enough verbal abilities to articulate what they feel when they're having a tantrum. Ask her what you can do to help her calm down next time.
Things You'll Need
- Baby bag with snacks and drinks
References
- "Child Psychology: Development in a Changing Society"; Robin Harwood, et al.; 2008
- "The Discipline Book"; William Sears, et al.; 1995
- "What's Going on In There?" Lise Eliot; 2000
