Trauma in childhood doesn't have to involve pain or death to produce profound effects that can last well into adulthood. If you're suffering from the lasting effects of childhood trauma, you don't have to live with it forever. You can make strides toward restoring your sense of safety and balance by engaging in simple, refreshing activities.
Get it Out
Release the negative emotions regarding your trauma -- all the anger, fear, panic, hate and grief. Ask someone you trust to sit quietly with you while you speak freely about the incident until you're tired of doing so. Relive the experience from start to finish and let yourself feel whatever comes to you. If you're uncomfortable talking to someone about your experience, write about it. Free writing -- which can bring out thoughts and ideas you never knew you had -- can be cathartic.
Get Support
Don't be ashamed of your experience; allow others to help you. Join a support group and get to know the other members. Share your experience and offer support to other members. Being strong for someone else can help you realize that you can be strong for you, too. Regularly visit a professional therapist whom you trust and establish a close relationship with him. If you are religious, attend church meetings to receive comfort from fellow congregants or your pastor.
Stay Grounded
Establish a daily routine and stick to it. You may find that structure will give you a sense of security and help ease your fear and anxiety about the past. Daily clear your mind, sit down and plant your feet firmly on the floor. Breathe deeply and press your hands into your thighs. Focus on soft, soothing colors and positive thoughts. This should help you feel more in control. Avoid people and places that produce negative feelings. Make a habit of reminding yourself daily that the world is not an evil place and that there is much about which to feel optimistic.
Take Care of Yourself
Exercise every day. Find an activity you enjoy -- whether it's group aerobics, jogging or dance -- and use it to relieve stress and meet new friends. Eat a healthy diet and avoid alcohol and drugs. Spend your free time doing creative, productive things that you love -- whether painting, working out, writing or tutoring children. Remind yourself that it's OK to express yourself freely and that you are safe. Cultivate feelings of self-worth -- tell yourself that you are important and unique. If your therapist prescribes medication, take it as directed and take an active part in your therapy. Your efforts will make you feel better and more hopeful.
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