5 Things You Need to Know About Teens And Confidence

1. When Everything Is Wrong

Adolescence is often the most difficult period in a person's life. The hormonal and physical changes associated with the adolescent years cause many to feel a decrease in self confidence and self esteem. The awkward changes of the body paired with a heightened awareness of social structure and the pressures of school can make some teens especially upset during these sensitive years.

2. I Hate My Body

Many teens find that the physical changes associated with adolescence are the most difficult aspect of this life phase. Girls in particular see a drastic change in their physicality that can bring about shame and embarrassment. The development of breasts and the beginning of a menstrual cycle can be especially difficult for some young girls. These physical changes can be embarrassing and cause some teens to feel a sense of shame at their bodies' normal changes. Lend an empathetic ear, and even provide them with non-intrusive stories of your own development to provide perspective.

3. All of My Friends Hate Me

Confidence levels are greatly influenced by peer groups, especially in the adolescent years. Teenagers are more aware of what their friends think than what their parents expect. In this regard, teaching a teenager to value his own self worth and opinion over what their friends want or expect is important in curbing self esteem problems and peer pressure anxiety. Confidence building for teens often revolves around improving their self image and reflecting that image to the outside world. Helping teens recognize their individuality and appreciate their particular value system will help them avoid being influenced by the opinions of their peers.

4. I Need My Space

The teenage years are a time when an individual is trying desperately to break away from the cocoon of his concerned parents. The need to assert a sense of individuality builds a healthy self assertiveness and self esteem. Most of the confidence gained in adolescence prepares teens for adulthood; however, this need for autonomy is tempered by parents' obligations to protect them from harm. Helping teens navigate their need for space and autonomy can help build their self esteem and sense of accomplishment in navigating their lives.

5. I Have to Find Myself

Teenagers have an increased need to find who they are. Often this need is difficult for adults (who feel they have already found themselves) to understand. Helping a teen to have the confidence to explore their likes and dislikes is important. Instilling a sense of pride in who they are and what they want will help them to feel more comfortable exploring the issues surrounding identity. This process is not an easy one, but an understanding and knowledgeable parent can lend wisdom or help when necessary.