The ability to perform sexually can be a matter of pride for some and a source of heartache for others. When sexual performance is not up to par, it does not necessarily mean that something is wrong with you that will affect the rest of your life. A few simple things that can be done in your everyday life can help you make intimacy a better experience for you and your partner.
Step 1
Avoid stress. Stress can decrease sexual desire and performance. When you are thinking of other things and not concentrating on lovemaking, then you will walk away unsatisfied and disappointed. Daily meditation, long hot baths and aromatherapy can help relax your mind and body. Use a lavender-scented candle or incense during aromatherapy. Lavender is associated with peace and tranquility.
Step 2
Speak with your physician about any medications you may be taking. Some medications can affect sexual drive and performance. If medications are causing your problem, then ask for alternatives or supplements that are safe to take. Antidepressants are the main type of medications that can negatively affect sexual drive and performance.
Step 3
Request a blood test to check for hormone imbalances. Hormones can play a major role in performance and desire. If there is a problem with hormone production, then your doctor can prescribe hormone therapy medication. Hormone fluctuations can be caused by menopause and pregnancy in women, and general aging for both sexes can also play havoc on hormones.
Step 4
Take herbal supplements such as horny goat week, black cohosh or milk thistle. These herbs have been known to help increase libido and stamina in men and women. They increase hormone production naturally, which in turn improves sexual health.
Step 5
Attend sex counseling sessions. Problems in a relationship can lead to poor performance, and narrowing down the cause can greatly increase desire and performance. This method can help bring the "new" feeling back to the relationship.
