A husband and wife should have mutual goals for their family and relationship. These goals should be things that are accomplished as a team, the Marriage Success counseling website explains. You can set these goals with your husband if they are not in place already. They will keep both of you focused on the bigger picture and help you work together to focus your energies and make beneficial accomplishments.
Step 1
Write down a list of the goals you would like to have for your marriage, and have your husband do the same. This will give you a basis for refining two lists into mutually acceptable goals. Exchange the lists when you are both done so you will each know where the other person stands.
Step 2
Talk to your husband about the goal lists. The purpose of this conversation is to find mutual ground and areas in which you can compromise to finalize a goal list. Write down a new goal list based on the results of this conversation. Putting them in writing clarifies them and eliminates any possible misunderstandings, the Crosswalk Christian living site explains.
Step 3
Write down a time frame for each goal and the specific steps you will both use to accomplishment it. Both you and your husband should provide input on the schedule and steps. The Marriage Success website advises making the steps realistic and specific. Create a schedule for meeting with your husband to review progress toward the goal and to refine the plan as needed.
Step 4
Create a list of rewards for you and your husband to enjoy as a couple each time a goal is achieved. Marriage Success states that celebrating each accomplishments will motivate you and your husband to continue the success.
Tips and Warnings
- You and your husband should have individual goals, the Marriage Success website advises. Compare these to your marital goals and make sure they are aligned. You may need to adjust them if they are not. Crosswalk.com explains that flexibility is essential to healthy goal setting.
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