Narcissism is a personality disorder recognized by the American Psychological Association and the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV, RV). Narcissistic people have an inflated sense of superiority over nearly everyone. The Mayo Clinic says that those with narcissistic personality disorder have little regard for the feelings of others, require admiration and have a sense of importance over others. Deep down, the individual struggles with self-esteem issues and sensitivity to any criticism. Identifying true narcissism in a boyfriend should be left to a professionally trained medical professional, but warning signs can be identified by an untrained person.
Avoids Sharing Feelings
Because of the narcissist's need to shield the world from his internal turmoil, he may avoid any discussions of his feelings. He may change the subject, make a joke or give superficial answers even though it may seem obvious that something is wrong. Don't be surprised if the boyfriend pushes you away after you repeatedly try to get close to him. Feeling emotions is not something a narcissist wants to do. He wants to give the impression that he is perfect and everything is ideal in his world. The Mayo Clinic suggests that, despite his unwillingness to share his feelings, he may obviously be jealous of others or seem fragile or easily hurt with criticism or rejection.
Uses Others
A narcissist is very good at building relationships, but they may only be to fulfill his needs. Whether it be relational or professional, a narcissist can become everyone's best friend, winning people over with social skills, determination and success. As soon as he reaches the level he wants, whether that be a promotion or having an impressive girl on his arm, the narcissist disposes of people around. Some may be replaced with others who are not aware of his underlying personality disorder. The Mayo Clinic suggests a narcissist may be oblivious to the feelings and emotions of others. He may believe that no other plan or idea is as important as his and is willing to take advantage of others to achieve his goals.
Unrealistic Beliefs
Based on how he acts or the things he says, a boyfriend may outwardly show his narcissistic personality. He may say or behave as if he believes he's better than you or others. Fantasizing about extreme accomplishments, obtaining high power over others or securing the attention of others through physical appearance or success are common traits of narcissists, according to the Mayo Clinic.
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