If your toddler insists on sleeping in your bed or refuses to go to sleep in his own bed, you're not alone. Bedtime problems are common among toddlers, and although your child will probably grow out of it, there are ways you can encourage your child to get a better night's sleep. Follow a bedtime schedule that you follow every night and practice the proper techniques that will get your child to sleep in her own bed for the entire night.
Step 1
Create a calming bedtime routine that makes your toddler feel safe. Use the same routine every night at the same time, so your child knows what to expect. This bedtime routine may include reading a story, talking about your day, saying prayers and tucking your child in. This bedtime routine will make your child feel safe and secure, making it less likely for him to get up during the night.
Step 2
Place your child back in bed. The Mayo Clinic advises that even if your child gets up 50 times, continue placing your child back into bed each time. Avoid arguing or scolding your child. Instead, say as few words as possible and calmly tuck your child back into bed.
Step 3
Avoid soothing or coaxing your child once you have put her in bed. Once the bedtime routine is over, do not offer your child attention in any way, other than saying, "It's time for bed," or "Goodnight," while quickly tucking her back into bed. Pediatric behavior specialist Dr. Robert Needlman suggests staying in the bedroom for no longer than 20 seconds while placing your child back in bed.
Step 4
Avoid loud noises on the TV or stereo while your child is trying to sleep. If your child hears loud noises, he is more likely to wake up and get out of bed. You do not have to tiptoe or whisper after your child is in bed, but avoid loud sounds when possible.
Step 5
Put your child to bed before she is tired. Instead of waiting until your child is tired and cranky, start the bedtime routine when your child is awake, then allow bedtime as a time to relax and wind down. Dim the lights, put on quiet music and speak in low tones to help your child ease into sleep.
Tips and Warnings
- If your child is afraid of the dark, arm him with a flashlight to calm his fears.
- If you think your child may not feel safe in bed due to a trauma or incident that has occurred, contact your doctor immediately.
