Sharing a life with someone who is diagnosed with a mental health problem such as bipolar disorder can be frustrating, rewarding and overwhelming. Many times you may not know what to expect because your partner suffers from intense highs and lows. If you also have children, you may have to be the absolute caretaker when your partner may be struggling from depression or mania. Things may seem to spiral out of control quickly. It's important to acknowledge the role that the spouse of someone with bipolar disorder plays, because it can be extremely difficult.
Step 1
Encourage your spouse to get treatment. Someone with bipolar disorder may be hesitant to participate in therapy and take medication regularly. However, medication and therapy are necessary in reducing and controlling symptoms of bipolar disorder.
Step 2
Attend couples counseling or family therapy on a regular basis. If you have children, involve them in family therapy, because they are also affected by the disorder. This is one form of support that all family members should take advantage of, and you also might want to consider getting individual therapy for yourself.
Step 3
Seek support from friends and family members. You'll need outside support from people other than your spouse. Make sure that you take care of yourself by scheduling time with friends and family. For instance, make it a goal to have lunch with one friend every week and to visit your parents every other week.
Step 4
Talk to your partner about issues when she isn't experiencing a manic, hypomanic or depressive episode. Don't try to have serious discussions when she's having one of these episodes, because she will not be reasonable.
Step 5
Join a support group of spouses of people with bipolar disorder. Ask your therapist or your partner's therapist for information about a local support group. These people will be able to understand your situation, listen to your problems and give you advice. You won't feel as alone if you can connect with others who are having the same experiences.
Step 6
Learn to recognize signs of suicidal thoughts, which include saying goodbye, purchasing means to kill oneself, talking about death, feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness and reckless behavior. If you believe your spouse is experiencing any of these symptoms, contact your family therapist, take him to the local psychiatric emergency room or call 911.
Tips and Warnings
- Don't give up your hobbies and interests. You'll probably feel overwhelmed by your responsibilities, but it's important to continue to make time for yourself and your interests to help you relieve stress and cope in a healthy way.
