Relationship abuse occurs when a significant other or close friend physically or emotionally abuses the other partner. Relationship abuse is a form of domestic violence. Domestic violence and relationship abuse not only affects a partner but it can affect other family members, strangers and those not related to the abuser. While men can be abused in relationships too, according to the Stop Relationship Abuse website, one in three women in the United States will be a victim of relationship abuse.
Risk Factors
Risk factors involved in abusive relationships stem from one or more factors. Someone who abuses another human was likely abused as a child, teenager or adult. It is generally a learned behavior, meaning that the abuser has witnessed this behavior repeatedly, over a course of time. Aside from exhibiting this learned behavior, an abuser may also suffer from mental illness. Bipolar disorder, depression and schizophrenia can lead to violent outbursts. Someone who has a high level of aggression or issues with anger management also may be more apt than others to be abusive toward his partner. Alcoholism and drug abuse can cause a spike in erratic behavior that leads to verbal or physical abuse.
Signs
You can look for certain signs with relationship abuse. If your partner begins to show signs of aggression--such as yelling or threatening to hurt you--this is an indication of mental abuse. Belittling, name calling or controlling a situation also indicates mental signs of abuse. If you suspect a friend or family member is being abused, they may show certain signs. Detachment from family and friends, feelings of low self worth or bruising and physical injury may be present. In some cases, people who are abused often hide their abuse from family and friends.
When to Seek Assistance
If you feel you are in an abusive relationship or know someone who is, seek assistance right away. The victim should be placed in a safe environment with plenty of support from family, friends or domestic violence counselors. If the victim is in the midst of a heated argument or abusive situation, they should call "911" or the police immediately. If they are not in immediate danger, they should seek the safety of a domestic violence shelter or other secure environment.
Get Help
The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers 24-hour support and advice for victims who need assistance. Calling (800) 799-SAFE will put the victim in touch with professionals who can help. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) has a search engine where you can locate a professional counselor near your home. The NCADV also can give you directions on how to reach your local domestic violence shelter.
Outcome
The outcome of most relationships that suffer from abuse is separation. In some cases, it ends up that the victim gets hurt either mentally or physically. The abuser must want to seek counseling or therapy to help with his problem to achieve a positive outcome.
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