One of the most trying things a parent can deal with is a display of violence by her children. While parents want to believe their children are incapable of physically hurting others, particularly other children, children do occasionally display aggressive behavior. These incidents are frightening and must be dealt with immediately and effectively so that a repeat of the action does not occur. Parents must be able to help their children deal with violent impulses.
Step 1
Remove your child immediately from any situation in which he has behaved in an aggressive manner. Take him to a controlled and private area where he can calm down. Discuss his behavior with him once he has cooled off.
Step 2
Let your child know what the consequences of violent behavior will be. Provide a strong incentive for her to avoid such actions. Follow through with your promised actions should an incident occur.
Step 3
Model the type of behavior you expect from your child in difficult situations. Let him see how calmly you deal with maddening situations. Show him how difficult situations can be handled with verbal discussions rather than fighting.
Step 4
Acknowledge the anger and aggressive feelings your child occasionally experiences. Let her know that such feelings are normal but that she has to learn to control her impulses.
Step 5
Role play with your child. Act out difficult situations such as pretending your child's friend will not share toys with her. Show her the way to respond to such a situation without reacting aggressively.
Step 6
Anticipate situations in which you believe your children may react in a violent manner. Take your child aside and let him know what to expect. Explore ideas with him as to how the coming situation should be handled.
Step 7
Teach your child to take time before reacting to tough situations. For instance, have her count to 10 or sing the "ABC" song to herself when something happens that is frustrating to her.
Step 8
Schedule an appointment with a professional counselor if your child consistently displays aggressive behavior or physically injures another child. At this point, the behavior is too difficult for a parent to manage without help.
