Self-esteem is a sense of self-worth. A child with low self-esteem may think that he is unimportant and feel that he is not good enough. These thoughts may make a child feel depressed and possibly not try as hard in life because he doesn't see the point. On the other hand, a child with low-self esteem may try too hard to try to gain perceived acceptance and self-worth. Raising a child's self-esteem is part of a parent, teacher and other role model's responsibilities in a child's life. Helping to raise a child's self-esteem will help him feel confident and ready to face the world.
Step 1
Show the child that you care by giving affection and attention. This includes quality time playing games, talking or going to fun events. Ask the child questions so he knows you are interested in his life and that he is important to you. Let the child know how much you care by telling him that you care. Celebrate accomplishments and give praise for even small successes.
Step 2
Use positive statements to get your child to think positively. External dialogue can affect the child's internal dialogue. For example, say "Please pick up your toys and put them in the toys box," instead of "Don't leave your toys all over the place and leave such a mess!"
Step 3
Be patient when a child is learning a new task. For example, show encouragement rather than discouragement because he is taking longer to learn how to tie his shoes than you think it should take.
Step 4
Teach the child about diversity and about how everyone is different. Teach and show the child how important it is to accept one another despite differences. Celebrate differences by taking the child to different cultural events and reading books about diversity.
Step 5
Have high expectations for the child. Let him know what your expectations are and then be his cheerleader as he works to meet these expectations. Expectations include following directions and showing good manners. If the child does not meet expectations, let him know you are disappointed by the behavior or action but that you still love him.
