No child comes equipped with a complete instruction manual; even a library's worth of parenting books cannot adequately instill a caregiver with the skills needed to raise a happy, healthy child. The American Academy of Pediatrics notes that, while parents should strive to be their best, "there is no such person as a perfect parent--or a perfect child." Fortunately, parents can look to many expert resources to develop effective parenting skills.
Step 1
Enroll in a parenting class in your area. Churches, nonprofit organizations and government programs often provide parenting classes at little to no cost for caregivers. If possible, select a parenting class that aligns with your own family philosophy; while some parents are interested in attachment parenting and related practices, others prefer more conventional techniques. Remember that there is no single "right" way to raise a child.
Step 2
Seek support from other parents. Parent-teacher associations, toddler playgroups and parenting clubs can provide caregivers with peer support and hands-on experience. By observing the way that other parents interact with their children, you can determine which techniques and approaches can work best for your family.
Step 3
Adopt a discipline technique that suits your needs and preferences, and remember that it's OK to adjust your style as you and your child grow. While the American Academy of Pediatrics supports the use of a positive-reward system and nonviolent punishment techniques, parenting experts like Alfie Kohn believe that systems of rewards and punishments are manipulative and counterproductive. Be consistent but flexible.
Step 4
If you struggle significantly to maintain good parenting skills, contact a nonprofit organization like ChildHelp. This U.S.-based nonprofit is fully staffed by experts who offer free parenting advice 24 hours a day. ChildHelp can be contacted at 1-800-422-4453.
Step 5
Ask your child's pediatrician for advice if you consistently notice behaviors that concern you. Your child's doctor may be able to offer effective advice; if your child has a behavioral disorder or conduct disorder, the pediatrician can refer you to a specialist.
