Bonding between parents and babies is a magical experience. The intense feeling of connection that develops lays the foundation for the baby developing into a secure, happy child. But parents-to-be don't need to wait until the baby arrives to start the bonding process. Pregnant mothers and fathers-to-be can bond with their baby even before birth.
Step 1
Talk to your baby. Start every morning greeting the unborn baby and telling him what you have planned for the day, and finish each day telling the baby, "Goodnight." You can tell the baby what things you encounter throughout the day and how you are looking forward to meeting him. Reading books or short stories aloud to the baby is another way to bond through voice. It doesn't matter what you are reading, the sound and cadence of your voice and the fact that you are enjoying the novel or story just might make your baby feel happy inside the womb.
Step 2
Use music. Turn on your favorite, soothing music to share with your unborn child. He will probably respond to similar kinds of music once out of the womb. Singing is even better, since babies love both music and the sound of their mom's or dad's voice.
Step 3
Touch your belly. Touching, stroking and rubbing your pregnant belly are good ways to create a bond with the new life inside you. As the baby grows and you can start feeling the baby's movement, this becomes even more effective. Playing with the baby using touch can also be a fun way to start prenatal bonding. You can press or poke gently in the same spot your baby kicks to see if he will respond to you.
Step 4
Have an ultrasound. The first time you see your baby on an ultrasound, you'll get excited about this little, growing being inside you. Nowadays, some hospitals offer 4-D ultrasounds, which show even more detail of facial characteristics and tiny baby parts that can help future parents visualize their baby. Be sure to request a photograph or video of the ultrasound so you can show it off to friends and family and look at it when you are alone to help you picture your child and feel closer to him.
Tips and Warnings
- Parents-to-be aren't the only ones who can bond with the unborn baby. Siblings and future grandparents also enjoy doing things to create a connection with their future family member.
Things You'll Need
- Favorite novel or short story
- CDs or MP3s of calming music
- Appointment for a prenatal ultrasound
