During a date, flirting plays the important role of keeping her attention. You can employ a variety of flirting techniques, and every person is different in terms of how he deploys these techniques or responds to them. Flirting takes confidence and practice in terms of knowing how to do it and learning what people enjoy.
Step 1
Make eye contact, which is one of the best tools people have for flirting. The best amount of time to maintain first eye contact is one second because it is long enough to express interest, but not so long that you come off as threatening. Once you're on a date, eye contact is a good way to keep your date interested because it shows you're confident. In fact, not maintaining eye contact may make your date wonder if things are going well.
Step 2
Gently touch the arm. Light touching is a popular flirting technique because it can carry a strong message of interest. A flirty touch is best if done on the arm, whereas a touch on the back comes off as friendly rather than romantic. If a first, fleeting touch is accepted or reciprocated, try touching the arm again for a longer period of time.
Step 3
Use body language. Non-verbal flirting skills can sometimes be stronger than being vocal. To show you're interested, turn your entire body--not just your head--toward your date. It's also effective to signal interest by mirroring your date's body language. This should be subtle, showing that you're in sync with your date.
Also, dress nicely, which shows your date you're invested in having a good appearance and pleasing her.
Tips and Warnings
- Confidence is key. Don't be afraid to make and maintain eye contact, especially during a one-on-one date.
Things You'll Need
- Flattering and attractive outfit
References
- Social Issues Research Centre
- "101 Ways to Flirt: How to Get More Dates and Meet Your Mate"; Susan Rabin and Barbara Lagowski; 1997
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