Jealousy is a very strong and passionate emotion. In long-term relationships, it is inevitable at some point that jealous feelings will occur. It is important that, as a couple, long-term partners learn both to communicate effectively and to deal with their own emotional reaction to jealousy. The power of jealousy can become toxic and cause lasting problems with a relationship if a couple allows it to do so. Jealousy causes you to be doubtful of your loved one, and feel threatened by their interaction with others.
Healthy Jealousy
Jealousy can be damaging but is not always a bad thing. If your girlfriend is going out with a group of male friends, or your boyfriend comes across an old flame, it may be uncomfortable for you. In these circumstances slight jealous feelings may even be endearing and show your partner you are concerned and care about him. It is important to show trust at this stage.
Unhealthy Jealousy
The dark side of jealousy can be an ugly thing, bringing out the worst in people. Insecurity is magnified by jealousy, and lovers often feel inadequate and not good enough for their partner. Conveying jealousy in an accusing manner can be the first step to fracturing a happy relationship. If a lover feels accused when completely innocent, it will only create resentment and add conflict to the original problem. Jealousy can come in the form of needing to know where your partner is at all times, or wondering what he is doing on his phone and computer. A study printed in the Cyber Psychology and Behavior Journal reported that in 308 subjects, 16.2 percent suffered jealousy directly linked to the social networking site Facebook.
Results
Jealousy can bring devastating results and create misery on both sides. If not controlled, jealousy can ruin long-term, previously happy relationships. The jealous partner can feel envy, self-doubt and also mistrust their partner. Jealous feelings can bring on controlling behavior to the point that the other partner begins to feel suffocated and trapped. If completely innocent, being accused of something by a jealous partner can be hurtful. Mistrust ensues, which creates resentment. Fights can occur, and jealousy will be the unspoken, underlying issue.
Prevention
Jealousy is best prevented by the partner who is experiencing jealousy. Learning to control your own emotions and not lash out can prevent many problems before they occur. Calmly convey your feelings in a manner that is not accusatory. Assure your partner that you love him, and know that he loves you.
Reaction
Valuing the reaction of a jealous partner and communicating openly can help stop jealousy in a relationship. Try open communication that is not turned into conflict. Jealousy should be harnessed, and trust should win out in the end for a long-term, happy relationship.
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