Clinical hypnotherapist Dr. Ron Bailes reports in his site People Reading Body Language that unintentional cues and signals are constantly being sent during communication. Men often project their social status, emotions and self-image through their body language without even realizing they are doing so. Body language also is a major factor when involved in mating rituals. There are a number of basic cues that can help you to read male body language.
Step 1
Consider how a man is seated to read his self-image and other signals he may be sending. A man who sits with his legs open is confident and has a dominant personality. Open legs also are a common sexual posturing position. The man's confidence is even greater when he also leaves his arms in an open position.
Step 2
Watch a man's eyes for an indication of his interest. Men's eyes tend to roam around when they are looking for an available female. When they catch what they believe is a positive response, their eyes widen and they may wink or smile and hold a stare. Men's pupils tend to dilate when they see someone or something that interests them.
Step 3
Keep an eye open for men who tend to horse around with each other by pretending to wrestle or lightly punch each other. They are trying to draw attention to themselves. Men seeking attention also talk louder than normal, toss their heads around and act foolish.
Step 4
Look at where a man touches you or another person to glean his intentions. When a man touches a woman on the arm, that is a sign of intimacy and interest. When he pats you on the back, he is being demeaning, overbearing or patronizing. Touching the hand often is a signal that he wants to move the relationship even closer toward intimacy.
Step 5
Stay tuned to positive listening feedback that men give when they are interested in you. While they may or may not be interested in what you are saying, positive clues include nodding and leaning in toward you when you speak. An open posture with palms turned outward indicates a responsiveness and openness to you.
Tips and Warnings
- Check out the culture of the workplace or other organized group before placing too much emphasis on body language. Researchers at the Social Issues Research Centre report that many organizations are led by men who jokingly flirt and act like clowns. Men may mimic the leadership style of management for acceptance and recognition rather than out of sincerity.
- When relying on body language to gauge a man's interest or state of mind, be careful not to place too much emphasis on just one gesture or expression, warn consultants at Business Balls. Clusters of signs and signals are more reliable. You also must consider the cultural background of the man, as well as the environment in which you are communicating.
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