Codependency plays a part in the role of the spouse, parent or child in the family that has a drug addict. The codependent family member is almost as addicted as the drug addict; only the addiction is in learning to live life surrounded by drug addiction. The family member may try to make everything seem normal. In some cases, family members may try to make excuses for the addict's behavior, even pretending there's no problem in an effort to make the family feel drug-free.
Spouse
The spouse of a drug addict undergoes tremendous emotional burdens, especially if that spouse has children. There's the unbearable weight of trying to deal with the addict, along with the challenge and obligation of taking care of the children. The sober parent must play a better role model to the children while trying to help conquer the spouse's addiction. Guilt and anger can also affect the sober partner, who could feel she may be responsible in some way or should have known something in order to prevent the addiction.
Teens
Addiction is a family disease, according to Teen Drug Abuse, which helps parents deal with struggling teens. Because the addict is obsessed with the drug, the family becomes obsessed and deeply troubled by the drug problem. Drug addiction is particularly difficult when dealing with teens who are addicted. When they are caught and punished, they may become rebellious and defiant because of the role that peers play in their lives. Communication between parent and child is a key ingredient in preventing or intervening with a drug problem. Youths must be told how drugs are affecting the family and friends around them in negative ways. Often, parents must seek outside help through counseling to conquer the teen's problem and free the family from its troubles.
Parents
Parents are filled with guilt and anger when discovering a child of theirs is taking drugs. They believe they did something wrong in the way the child was brought up. They may think they could have prevented it. Parents may also become angry with children who are addicts for putting themselves in such a dangerous position. The guilt must be overcome with compassion; professional help may be necessary.
Children
Children who discover a parent is on drugs often focus their attention on the parent's problem and have to grow up fast, taking on the role of the parent. Even children feel responsible for the parent's problem, according to Therapist Unlimited. They can hardly ever relax, and feel they have to be home with the parent or something horrible will happen. Children of addicts may suffer lifelong damage if they don't get outside support or professional help.
