Parents play an important role in establishing a child's self-esteem. Children who feel good about themselves are more likely to succeed academically and socially, are better equipped to cope with challenges and are more likely to feel confident and optimistic than kids with low self-esteem. Although children develop some of their self-esteem through interactions outside the home, parents have a salient role in helping children feel positive about themselves.
Step 1
Show your child that you appreciate her efforts, not just her success. For instance, if your child fails to get a part in the school play after carefully preparing for her audition, resist the urge to reassure her that she'll get a part next time. Instead, let her know that you're proud of her for working hard and trying out so that she learns to value her efforts.
Step 2
Ask your child to participate in chores appropriate for his age and skills so that he can take pride in contributing to your family responsibilities.
Step 3
Take time to show your child how much you love her with words and gestures. For instance, tell your child you love her at breakfast or give her a hug when you pass her room.
Step 4
Encourage your child to see things in a positive light. For example, if your child says "I'm terrible at math" because he failed a quiz, help him find the parts of the quiz that he didn't understand. He can then see that he only had trouble with a particular function and he will be less inclined to make negative comments about his overall abilities.
Step 5
Help your child learn how to set and achieve goals. This will give her a sense of accomplishment. For instance, if your child wants to take a trip to an amusement park, help her create a system to save part of her allowance so she will have money to spend at the park.
Step 6
Support your child in finding activities in which he can excel. If your son is great at shooting hoops, sign him up for a basketball team. If your daughter loves to read, enroll her in your library's summer reading program.
