Libido is the medical term for sex drive. Therefore a "decreased libido" is the reduction of your sex drive, or your interest in sex. You are far from alone if you are experiencing a sex drive that is less than optimal. All people have varying levels of libido that are within the range of normal. Dr. Ashley Hill from Obgyn.net says, "Sexual desire is a normal and natural feeling for women and men. However, sexual desire can change over time, and can increase or decrease depending on the situation."
Men and Women
Historically men and woman have experienced different sex drives, with men typically having stronger sexual desires than women. This of course it not always the case, but a general rule. When partners experience significantly different sex drives this can cause strain on a relationship. Staff at MayoClinic.com report, "Couples can become polarized--one person initiates contact while the other avoids it."
Daily Stress
Day-to-day life can get overwhelming. Today, we tend to be stretched fairly thin, especially if working at a demanding career or taking care of a family. Hill reminds us that "the brain is the most important sexual organ," meaning that our emotions play a tremendous role in our sexual lives. Many couples have learned the hard way that stress can decrease libido.
Relationship Stress
Relationship stress can be the cause of a decreased libido--women historically are more affected by this as sex and emotional balance can be connected. Anger, conflict and unresolved emotions can take their toll, and physical intimacy can suffer.
Physical Changes
Physical changes over a person life may also affect libido. Age in itself is a factor. Many men experience a decrease of libido as they age. This can be due to a drop in testosterone, which for a man peaks in late teen years. A woman's libido often peaks in her thirties due to increased self-confidence, knowing what she needs, and changing hormones. This will again decrease when progesterone and estrogen start to decline as you move toward menopause.
Medication
Low libido can be the side effect of certain medications. For example, some antidepressants, thyroid medications, high blood pressure pills and even birth control pills can lower your sex drive. Talk to your doctor to see if any of your medications could be at the source of your level of sexual desire. Staff at Mayoclinic.com say, "Don't stop taking prescribed medication before discussing it with your doctor."
