The first day of school, moving to a new home, a parent's remarriage or a first sleepover can cause fear or anxiety within a child. New situations are more difficult for some children to cope with than for others. Shyness and a feeling of insecurity may play a large role in this behavior and cause a child to act irrationally through temper tantrums, excessive bouts of sobbing or being argumentative with parents. Helping your child cope with his fears can pave the way for easier future adjustments and success.
Step 1
Stay calm during changes. If your child sees that you are distraught or anxious, she will be also. Children can pick up on your emotions, and your concern will make your child feel that she should be worried, too.
Step 2
Examine your child's daily routines. Hunger, sleepiness or bathroom urgency can cause anxiety in social situations and times of change. Making sure your child is physically comfortable will help mak his transition into new situations smoother. It can't hurt to allow a snack, a trip to the bathroom or small nap before exposing him to new things and situations.
Step 3
Ease your child into any change, such as starting day care or school. Take him to school open houses to meet teachers and other children, or plan several short visits to the day care center so he can familiarize himself with the staff and other children. Once your child is familiar with these settings, his first day without you will be easier. In the event of a child's new stepparent, have your significant other visit frequently before the wedding to allow time for bonding between your child and the new member of your family.
Step 4
Establish daily routines to allow your child ample time to adjust. Pack personal belongings such as a blanket, toy or extra snack to remind her of the comforts of home. This will give her a sense of security in a new place or situation. Whenever she feels anxious, simply allow her to unpack one of her comforts.
Step 5
Be patient with your child. It make take longer for naturally shy children to adjust to new situations and major change. Pushing your child will only hinder his progress.
