At some point in your life, you may have experienced a lack of self-confidence. We all have. It's natural to want to feel confident at all times---it's a feeling of security, certainty and inner strength. If boosting your self-confidence is important to you, there are steps you can take to do that.
Step 1
Practice and develop skill sets. If your lack of self-confidence is merely a result of not having enough practice in what you're seeking to be confident in, or you just haven't developed the skill sets, then accomplish those tasks. More often, however, a true lack of self-confidence is about deeper emotional insecurities.
Step 2
Choose to be self-aware. It's hard to make changes in your life if you're not consciously aware of yourself---in your thoughts, your feelings and emotions. If your thoughts are focused on your flaws, your shortcomings and fears, chances are your self-confidence will suffer. Holding on to the belief that "I'm not confident" can be a barrier as well.
Step 3
Visualize yourself being confident. Your subconscious doesn't know the difference between what's real and what's imagined, so if you'd like a feeling of confidence to unfold within---start imagining yourself in that way. You will find yourself beginning to act that way as it is a projection of what is going on within.
Step 4
Stay conscious about your fears. Fear can be fairly crippling if you let it get out of hand, and it can cause a downward spiral in your confidence. It's normal to have fears, but staying conscious about the validity of those fears is important. Consider challenging your fears with a friend or a coach, and release fears that are irrational or based in assumptions.
Step 5
Allow yourself to be imperfect. Confidence does not come from perfection. In fact, perfectionism on any level is usually an overcompensation for low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence. Nobody is perfect. Let yourself be imperfect. Better yet, see yourself as perfect ... even with your imperfections.
Step 6
Ask for feedback. If you're just starting out, ask people you trust for feedback. You might ask them what your strengths are, or how they see you as unique. Allow yourself to feel good about these things, and transfer it to a feeling of confidence. In time, make a habit of asking yourself what your strengths are, what you love about yourself and "what's the worst that could happen?" You will find yourself easing into a very confident self.
Step 7
Applaud your efforts and celebrate successes. You deserve to be acknowledged every single day for your accomplishments. Over time your subconscious will begin to transform your ego's negative belief about who you are and what you can do with your life. Increased self-worth and confidence will result.
Step 8
Trust yourself. True self-confidence is really about trusting yourself---implicitly---on a deep level. Trust that you follow your intuition, your hunches and your rational fears. Trust that you will allow yourself the time to grow personally and become confident as you are ready. Trust that you can do any task with practice, patience and perseverance. You can do anything that you put your mind to with confidence.
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