1. How Deeply is Your Teen Involved?
When you first learn your teenager is using drugs, find out how deep the involvement is as quickly as possible. There is a tremendous difference between a teen who engages in a single experiment with marijuana and one who is a habitual substance abuser of more dangerous drugs such as heroin, cocaine or methamphetamine. Talking to him about his drug use is generally not enough. You may need to be covert in order to find out as much information as possible. This may require searching his room, insisting on drug testing and talking with his friends and their parents. He won't like these actions, but you must stress that his violation of trust has necessitated them.
2. Address the Situation Immediately
As soon as you have proof or strongly suspect that your child is using drugs, you need to address the issue. Confront her privately with whatever evidence you have. Maintain a calm demeanor and explain in the clearest terms possible that drug use will not be tolerated under any circumstance. Outline the consequences for this behavior and let her know you will take much tougher measures if the behavior does not stop immediately. Listen to her and assure her of your love and support but let her know this is an extremely serious situation that will not be ignored or overlooked.
3. Change the Environment
When you discover that your teenager is involved in using illegal substances, you need to change her environment. Teens almost never become involved in drug use strictly on their own. Generally, if she is using, so are her friends. It therefore becomes imperative to get her away from other users and into a positive environment. In severe cases, you may need to change her school or even move.
4. Involve Professionals
Teen drug use is an extreme problem that often requires professional assistance. The situation may stem from an emotional problem such as depression or poor self esteem, in which case therapy might be the appropriate way to deal with it. If you fear that your child is involved in dangerous behavior or criminality, you might need to consult with a drug-abuse counselor or clinic.
