1. Treat Teenage Drinking as a Non-Negotiable Topic
It can be uncomfortable discussing big issues like underage drinking with teens, but you need to forge ahead anyway. Take a firm stand against this illegal and dangerous practice. No compromises, such as allowing teens to drink only in their homes under your supervision, should be made.
2. Remove Drinking Temptations
Help your child resist temptation by removing obvious opportunities for sneaking alcohol. If there is a liquor cabinet in your home, keep it locked. You can be proactive in other situations, too. If your daughter is going to a party, speak with the host's parents to confirm that the party will be supervised. When the party is at your home, make sure the guests don't sneak in alcohol or slip out to their cars for an extended period of time. Without being obtrusive, poke your head in the door once or twice during the party--but knock first.
3. Make a Plan Before You Need It
Your child may experiment with drinking despite your best efforts. Create a plan in advance to deal with a possible drinking episode. Don't address the issue until your teen has sobered up. Once her head is clear, you can talk it out and enforce the pre-set consequences. If your child drinks and drives, take her license away for an extended period of time.
4. Make a Pledge
Consider getting a promise in writing from your teen not to engage in underage drinking. Remind your teen the pledge is a serious contract, and encourage him to promote sobriety within his group of friends. Not all teens will be willing to take this public stand, so don't push it. Also, be sure your teen "updates" his pledge not to drink when he leaves home for college. Some parents may find this approach too strict, but more conservative parents may find it effective and proactive.
