A relationship can be complex enough without having to deal with infidelity, however, it is an unfortunate reality. Whether it's a husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend or partner who's cheating, there are a few classical tell-tale signs that he may exhibit to raise your suspicions. But bear in mind that your partner may be exhibiting many suspicious signs and not having an affair, or exhibit no signs and still be having an affair.
Secrecy
An increased need for privacy is a red flag for infidelity. There are signs in cell phone and computer usage and behavior that may indicate he's cheating. Your partner may become very possessive of his cell phone, often having his phone on silent mode or not answering the phone in front of you. If you walk in on him while he's on the phone, he may hang up or go to another room and speak in hushed tones. He may spend a lot of time on the computer and switch screens when you come into the room; he may also clear the history from the computer after he's finished so you can't follow where he's been. Cheating partners often have a separate email address that they keep hidden from you.
Appearance
If your partner is taking more pride in her appearance than usual, like buying new clothes, having a haircut, attempting to lose weight or tone up, or becoming very conscious of her appearance particularly before she goes out, then she may be dressing to impress someone else.
Gifts
The cheating party in a relationship may bring you gifts for no apparent reason. He may be especially nice and thoughtful and show more concern for your feelings. Doing chores around the house without being asked, or calling you throughout the day just to see how you are. This is often to hide feelings of guilt he may be harboring.
Bills
Hiding bills, whether they are cell phone bills or credit card bills, is a warning sign. Cheating partners or spouses will often use cash instead of a credit card so there is no paper trail left behind. She may have a separate credit card that she is using and hiding from you, or she may not leave her handbag or purse lying around, in case there are receipts that will raise your suspicions.
Time
Your cheating partner or spouse will spend more and more time away from home; to do so he will make up excuses and tell lies about where he is going or where he has been. He may use deadlines at work as an excuse for coming home late. Attending office meetings and functions after office hours are often an excuse, as is slipping away whenever he gets the chance to run so-called errands that end up taking a couple of hours.
Critical
An infidel spouse or partner may be critical to a point of cruelty. She may be bothered by things and point things out that previously didn't bother her. She may be more impatient, rude, snappy, angry or even aggressive. Finding faults in you is a way of easing her own conscience and justifying the affair in her mind.
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