In an abusive relationship, one partner uses physical, emotional or mental manipulation and force to control the other person. If you suspect you are in an abusive relationship, or have a friend or family member who is in an abusive relationship, there are lots of free resources available to help. Taking the first step to reach out for help can be the hardest, but once you do, you will be surprised at all the support that is available.
Step 1
Locate domestic violence hotlines or websites. You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline any time of day or night and a trained resource specialist will help you figure out where your nearest women's shelter or help center is, as well as offer advice on how to stay safe. If you are not able to make a phone call, you can anonymously chat with a trained counselor online at the website of the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network.
Step 2
Once you have located your local domestic violence center, call to make an appointment for counseling and help. If you are in an emergency situation and need to get out immediately, call the shelter's crisis line and immediately go to the shelter. The YWCA offers a nationwide network of free counseling centers (see Resources).
Step 3
Attend counseling to help you cope with the effects of abuse and to learn how to protect yourself from any more abusive situations. Many centers, churches and community groups also host free domestic violence support groups, where you can meet other abuse survivors and help each other heal from your pasts, with the help of a trained domestic violence therapist.
Step 4
Educate yourself on the abuse, including the signs of an abusive relationship and how to break the cycle of abuse. There are many domestic violence prevention programs throughout the country that are willing to offer help and insight into abuse. Browse the websites listed in References for more information, or visit your local library to read up on abuse.
Step 5
Turn to supportive friends, family and spiritual leaders when you feel weak or need extra support. It may be hard to ask for help or a listening ear, but those who truly care about you will always be willing to listen and help if you need it.
Tips and Warnings
- If you are trying to escape an abuser you live with, there are women's centers across the country that offer a safe place to stay with security and a support network of experts.
- If you are in a crisis situation and are in danger of being hurt, call 911 immediately.
Things You'll Need
- Internet
- Phone
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