1. Dig for the Cause
Stealing is a serious offense. When your child steals, it is important to determine the motivation. Is this a one-time event done on a dare? Has he made a habit of stealing for the "thrill" of it? Why did he steal that particular object? It's important to find the root cause of the stealing in order to deal with the behavior adequately and appropriately. Insist that your teen talk with you about it. It may take several conversations to get to the root of the issue, but don't give up.
One useful tactic is to allow her to write down the reason for the theft instead of having to tell you face to face. This may take some of the pressure off and allow her to express herself. Also, an adolescent may honestly not know why he did such a thing. In such a case, writing about the stealing may give him clarity into his own thought processes and motivation.
2. Make Teens Accountable
Though it will be difficult, it is important for an adolescent to face those she has stolen from. An admission and apology may have severe consequences, and may even involve law enforcement. If this happens, remember that this frightening and painful event is a life lesson that will serve her later in life. You may feel a strong protective urge to hide a theft or return the stolen items anonymously, but helping your teen evade responsibility would be ultimately detrimental.
3. Get Professional Help
Sometimes an adolescent may steal because of emotional or mental problems that require professional attention. If you become aware that your teenager is engaged in repeated thefts, do not hesitate in getting her evaluated. Kleptomania is a compulsion that requires expert help. Theft may also be a result of depression, anger, low self-esteem or poor impulse control, all issues which should be addressed.
