Nobody wants to be with a cheating spouse or partner, and even worse, not even know about it. Regrettably, infidelity is often an unfortunate reality in many relationships. However, with a few careful observations you can look out for tell-tale signs that many cheaters often exhibit. Some signs may be very obvious while others are more subtle.
Privacy
An increased need for privacy is a definitely a red flag, particularly in relation to cell phone and computer usage. The cheating party may become very secretive and possessive about her cell phone, not answering the phone in front of you or going to a different room to talk. If she is using the computer a lot more and changes screens when you enter, she may be hiding something.
Excuses
To spend time on the affair, your partner will often make excuses or lie about where he's been. Some common ways of stealing time are by using excuses such as work, running important errands or spending time with old friends.
Sex
You may notice changes in your sexual relationship. Your partner may simply not be interested, claiming she's too tired, or she may be more dominating and want to experiment with different positions.
Criticism
You may be on the receiving end of sharp criticism. Cheating partners will dissect and be more critical about things that previously didn't bother them. This is often used to justify the affair.
Gifts
Your partner may surprise you with gifts without any reason. He may be more considerate of your feelings and help you with everyday tasks without being asked. He may also encourage you to go out more and try new things. This is often to cover feelings of guilt.
Finances
Look out for a change in your partner's spending habits. He may use cash instead of credit or debit cards so not to arouse suspicion when the statements are delivered. He may become secretive about cell phone and credit card bills, or he may have a separate card that he's hiding from you.
Distracted
Becoming emotionally distance is a red flag. Your partner may become disinterested in you, your kids and the household in general. Even when she's with you she may be daydreaming or her thoughts may be preoccupied with something else.
Interests
Your partner's interests may have changed. He may be listening to different types of music, or watching movies and television shows that he previously wasn't interested in. This is often to impress the person he's with.
Defensive
Your partner may become unnecessarily defensive even when you ask trivial questions. He may accuse you of nagging and controlling. He may think that you suspect something and are out to catch him lying.
Accommodating
The cheating party may become overly accommodating to you and your needs. She may cook special meals for you, or encourage you to go out with your friends and have fun. This may be to cover her feeling of guilt.
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