Having simple, comfortable, meaningful and productive conversations is a skill that requires practice to completely master. Shy people often experience difficulty in beginning conversations or conversing effectively once they have gathered the courage to start conversations. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to help you talk with just about anyone for hours. These tips can help you convey your ideas more effectively and hear what the people you communicate with say just as clearly.
Step 1
Look a person in the eye and shake his hand when you first meet, as this communicates positive emotions. Make sure to display a sense of confidence and optimism by standing up straight, making eye contact and speaking in an assured tone of voice.
Step 2
Start with simple small talk items. Ask about the other person’s hobbies, career or family. Listen respectfully to his responses without interrupting the person or planning what you will say next in your mind. Once you gain information regarding what interests the other person has, you can build on it to create a more in-depth discussion. Search for topics that might be interesting to both of you, such as parenting joys and challenges, favorite places to visit and passions you both might share.
Step 3
Slowly delve into more serious issues with the other person once you feel more familiar with this person. If in a business setting, try talking about the topic you came to converse about by pointing out your position regarding it, identifying the problem or posing a solution to the problem you both are facing that is mutually beneficial. For social situations, talk more in detail about topics you are both interested in or things that appeal to the other person. Listen to this person without interrupting and respond in a friendly way. You can also paraphrase (repeat what the other person has said in your own words) to ensure you have understood the other person properly.
Step 4
Wrap things up in a sophisticated way when your conversation draws to a close, either because your time is running short or the topic has been resolved. Finish saying whatever you would like to express. Listen appreciatively to the other person is he has any final words to share. Thank this person for his time and express how nice it was to meet him, if this feels appropriate and natural to do. Shake hands before going separate ways.
References
- Gazley, Jeff; Is That the Reason Why I Cannot Communicate Well?: Learn How to Avoid Conflict and Increase Communication Skills; April 15, 2005
- Communication-Design: Importance of Effective Communication
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