An abusive relationship, where one partner exerts dominance over the other through violence or verbal, financial or mental degradation, can be a very traumatic experience to endure, and the lasting effects can feel devastating. If you have been through an abusive relationship, however, don't give up hope--there are ways to help you cope with the pain of an abusive relationship. You may be surprised to learn that there are indeed many resources available to help survivors of abuse.
Finding Help
Step 1
If you are suffering from the effects of an abusive relationship, whether it was recent or years ago, it's important to talk through your feelings with a licensed mental health professional. There are lots of free counseling programs available for survivors of abusive relationships, including free services at the YWCA, a national nonprofit dedicated to fighting domestic violence. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential referrals to local counseling centers.
Step 2
Enlist the help of your family and friends. Talk to supportive people in your life who care about you. When you're feeling down, anxious or are having bad memories, talking to someone loving can take the edge off your pain and help you feel better.
Step 3
Get involved in a hobby or sport that you enjoy. Doing something that makes you feel good will boost your confidence and help you focus on positive aspects of your life. If it's a fitness class such as yoga or dance, invite a friend or family member to join in the fun.
Step 4
Express yourself. Whether you're a life-long writer or artist or have never picked up a paint brush in your life, artistic expression offers a therapeutic outlet for your emotions. Try keeping a journal, writing a private blog, drawing, taking photos or painting.
Step 5
Seek spiritual guidance. Seek support and advice from a clergy member, monk, rabbi or meditation instructor. No matter what your spiritual beliefs, you can find help from a trusted leader with similar spiritual views as your own.
Step 6
Volunteer to help other abuse survivors. Volunteering is one of the advanced stages of the healing process that offers a great deal of satisfaction from helping others. Help out at your local domestic violence shelter, raise funds for an abuse awareness event or think of your own unique way to contribute to the cause.
Tips and Warnings
- Once you progress to a comfortable level of individual counseling, you may want to join a free support group for survivors of abuse. These groups are helpful in meeting supportive people who are willing to share their experiences.
- If you have thoughts of suicide or feel like you are in a crisis situation, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline or the National Suicide Prevention Hotline for immediate help.
Things You'll Need
- Supportive friends or family
- Professional counselor
- Internet/phone access
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