At first, it may seem like child's play to assist children in learning to behave among others. But once you introduce your child into a social situation, you can easily see all of the potential arguments and misbehaving that can occur. Not sharing, fighting and tantrums can make you feel as though you have the most unruly child in your playgroup. A gentle approach to teaching your child how to act around other people can help him see how preferable getting along with others can be.
Step 1
Socialize your child by introducing her to social situations early in life. If you avoid taking your child to a playgroup, preschool or other opportunities to socialize with other children, she may become overly shy or even belligerent when you finally do bring her to a social event. Allow her to socialize in small increments so that she gets used to being around other people slowly.
Step 2
Reward good behavior when you see it, recommends FamilyDoctor.org. Keep a sharp eye out when your child is playing with others, and when you see something done that needs praise, call him over and offer it. If you see him sharing, avoiding a fight or using good manners, you may also use a reward chart. Place stickers on the chart when you see good behavior, and offer a treat when he gets 10 stickers.
Step 3
Discipline the less than preferable behavior. Make sure that your child knows that she "behaved" badly, but that she isn't "bad." The best way to discipline bad behavior when around others is to remove her from the situation. Take away the toy she is hogging, or remove her from the playgroup until she can play nicely with others. Correct her with proper manners when you hear her use impolite terms.
Step 4
Be consistent in your direction, suggests the American Academy of Family Physicians. If you allow a small fight to slip one day, and then discipline her for it the next, you are sending her a mixed message about behavior around others. Always discipline undesirable behavior and always praise good behavior so your child always knows what is expected of her.
Step 5
Set a good example for your children by interacting well with others. If you are confrontational, gossipy or mean to others, your child will see that as acceptable. Instead, KidSource.com recommends using everyday opportunities to teach children about interacting and socializing with others. Use good manners when around town, and always be courteous so that your child can see the right way to act.
